Monday, June 18, 2018

Misheard lyric

You always said that Father's Day was just another day...

First, I always hear that lyric wrong. Also, the song from whence it comes is a bit of a downer about a shit relationship with dad but, that particular line means something to me that is a bit anathema to the song itself.

My dad never made me feel obligated or pressured to celebrate Father's Day. It was just another day. Of course, that made me all the more determined to celebrate the man on that day.

Which, now that I think of it, may have been the plan all along. Maybe my dad was just an evil genius.

Yesterday I hurt for a lot of my friends. The usual faire of thanks mom for pulling double duty posts made me wish they could have met my old man.
I have a tender spot in my heart for cripples, bastards and, broken things.
Friends of ours (mine and my siblings) with shit dads loved him because he took them as they were. He loved the kids who felt unlovely, unlovable.

When we had his funeral I had strangers tell me that my dad was there for their kid, for them, when their dad wasn't. He spent time with kids whose fathers wouldn't.

I don't know that there is a better gift than time spent.

A little more time would definitely be nice.

Have a day.